Project Leadership and Positive Language

Many of today’s project leaders have a great wealth of technical knowledge. They perform sophisticated tasks, develop great solutions, and create innovative products. They are technically intelligent, but many lack the leadership, interpersonal and social skills necessary to lead.
Project leadership requires building and sustaining a relationship of mutual trust, harmony and understanding with each individual in the project team. One way to make this happen is through assessing and matching the cue patterns from the words, eye movements and gestures of the other party, and always using positive language.
Consider how you use language in everyday communications, and the effect it can have on the person with whom you are communicating.
Imagine if your young son walks in and you say:
” See your granddad over there in his chair? Go and ask him how his arthritis is today.”
The boy goes over to his grandfather. “Granddad, how’s your arthritis today?” he asked.
“Oh, it’s bad, son. It’s always worse during damp weather. I can hardly move my fingers today.” The old man sighed. A look of pain crossed his face.
The boy comes back to you. “Granddad said it was bad. I think it hurts him”.
You continue: “Now go over and ask Granddad what was the funniest thing that you did when you were very young”.
The boy went over to his grandfather. “Granddad, what’s the funniest thing I ever did when I was very young?”, he asked.
The old man’s face lit up with a smile. “Oh, there were lots of things. There was the time when you and your friend played snowmen and sprinkled talcum powder all over the bathroom pretending it was snow; I laughed – lucky I didn’t have to clean it up”.
He looked into the distance with another smile. “Then there was the time I took you out for a walk. You were loudly singing a nursery rhyme you had just learned. A man went past and gave you a nasty look. He asked me to tell you to be quiet. You turned round and said to him, “If you don’t like me singing, you can go bury your head”. And carried on even louder…” The old man laughed.
The boy comes back to you: “Did you hear what Granddad said?”.
“Yes”, you reply. “You changed how he felt with a few words”.
The way we think affects the language we use and in turn, affects our behaviour.
There is a model, developed in the 1970s, called Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP), which can help to enhance communication, personal change and personal development. This model allows you to make full use of your brain and language to achieve effective communication and leadership excellence, with positive language at the heart of effective communication.
